Okay so ASP would seem to be a better option at this point, thats cool.
To answer your other question ... At the moment I'm using fateback as a host which has been okay for me uptil now but it doesn't mysql or a cgi bin or anything fancy but seeing as to this point all I have needed was this it has served me well however I fully realise that I will have to change servers the only issue there is finding a server that siuts my needs if its free or paying for a server once everythig is ready to be launched.
I did download mysql from their site but so far have done nothing with it, i dont know if that will help any.
I do have MS Access it was installed with my office 97 although to be truthful I have never used it nor even looked at it never having the need to.
You mentioned helping me script this stuff and that would be cool, I guess I need to go through this in a step by step process so I understand all the aspects of this and how everything works.
It's good to know that there are people out there that dont mind lending a hand and passing on knowledge that they have learned to others.